Being responsible for our lives is a no brainer. If we are asked the question of whether we take responsibility for our lives, the majority of us would say, “but, of course.” Seems pretty obvious, doesn’t it? But this can be a question worth exploring deeper. In my earlier work as a clinician, then as a consultant and coach, I discovered that even the most successful person invariably had an area or issue that they had sidled away from taking responsibility – whether consciously or unconsciously.
Here are a couple of examples–a top executive while “hitting the numbers” and running a very reputable and successful business, gave up responsibility of “being a father” and spending much quality time ( or any at all!) with his young kids. His rationale – his partner was super organized and while holding down her own demanding job also managed the home life including the children. Given one of his top values was family, the irony of this hit him sharply and he consequently committed to making time with the kids before they were put to bed. A solution that he felt was realistic and achievable especially the weeks he was home and not out of the country.