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Leading and Living through Change

Life happens.

Things don’t always go according to plan.

No wonder John Lennon, and some wise people before him have said, “Life is what happens to you when you are busy making other plans.”

And yet when the unexpected happens, it invariably throws us and we react.

Our reactions

Depending on the nature of the surprise and the change we have to deal with, our reactions vary.

It can range from being shocked to “how did all this happen?” As a senior leader put it, “I was blindsided and did not see this one coming at all!”

Other common reactions include anger, blame and bargaining (If only…), resistance and denial to finally acceptance and hope.

Understanding the process

Early in my career, in my work as a Clinical Psychologist, I was working with people going through profound change including grief and loss.  We often drew from the wisdom of Elizabeth Kubler Ross.

“The most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss, and have found their way out of those depths.”

Getting out of the depths takes time and we need to allow our inner being to be able to do this. But this is not always easy!

Change in Organisations 

Given the VUCA world we operate in now, change is a constant.   We have barely adapted to one major organisational/industry change when other is on the way.

Actually, it is even more than this.  We are having to deal with multiple shifts and changes simultaneouly.

If I look back to the ninties working as a consultant in large scale change management projects, we used to run workshops  on “Being change ready.”

This almost seems an outdated concept now as change like our mobile phones is  almost always, ON!

SARAH Model

This popular model which we use in the business setting reminds us of the different stages of the change response:

·      Shock

·      Anger

·      Resistance

·      Acceptance, and

·      Healing/Hope

Manager/ Leader challenge

If you are a manager/leader it can be triply challenging as you deal with the change yourself and having to lead and manage teams and the organisation at the same time.

Being patient and mindful that people have different processing time and supporting people through the various stages above is vital…..whilst at the same time keeping the momentum of the required change happening!

Another leadership paradox to learn and live!

Navigating the depths

So how about you?

How do you best deal with change, especially when it is not of your making and gets imposed on you?

Can you draw on a time when you were able to come through the change even stronger?  When you thrived not just survived?

What emotionally intelligent attitude and behaviours enabled this?

I look forward to your thoughts and experience of this.

Afterthought:  A conversation between Swami Vivekanand and Ramkrishna Paramahansa
Swami Vivekanand: “In tough times, how do you stay motivated?”
Ramkrishna Paramahansa: “Always look at how far you have come rather than how far you have to go. Always count your blessing, not what you are missing.”

The Inevitability of Change

Time and time again, it has been said – the three things we can all be certain of – death, taxes and change!

And depending on our circumstances, one of these may be more pressing than the others.

I had not been for a walk in the Western Springs Park since summer so autumn’s presence was spectacular!

From the crunch of the leaves to its gentle fall on you – the beautiful palate of variegated colours, an artist could not have painted better!

Here in the Southern Hemisphere in a few days time on the first of June winter begins.

A change bringing its own challenges – it gets dark early as there are fewer hours of sun but more rain and cold.

But also the delights as we curled up by the fire (or heater), warm, hearty meals and lots more sleep!

The in-between seasons can take a bit of adjustment and getting used to.

Whatever our favourite season, there is a hankering for that to continue – be it the endless days of summer or the freshness and vitality of spring, the cooling temperatures of autumn or the feeling of hibernation in winter.

Not unlike life – sometimes getting used to change can challenge us to the core as the familiar disappears from our experience.  The heart yearns for what was but we don’t always have a say in the matter.

And yet when we open our hearts and embrace the change, we stop resisting and flow with what is.

And in the process, like the chrysalis, we transition and emerge anew.

Leadership: The Truth about Change

I am delighted to interview Hilary Potts as she launches her new book, “The Truth about Change” this week.” Hilary Potts has guided executives through successful change initiatives, and is also the author of the popular “The Executive Transition Playbook.” Her more than 30 years as an executive, included stints with a Fortune 500 company and as CEO of a prominent consulting firm. (more…)

How to Get Motivated When You Feel Like Giving Up

You had this really great idea. You started on your project with great gusto but as time passes you start to feel deflated.

You just are not getting the results you had been expecting. You are left feeling frustrated, disappointed and flat – your dream project is just not gaining traction and your mindset is negative.

Reading about people who have ‘made it’ accentuates your own lack of progress even further.

You can’t help but wonder if you have been duped by all that smart marketing, the glowing success stories of others and your own misplaced optimism and enthusiasm.

Your well-meaning family and friends had questioned you right from the start. What? Leave your full-time job? Embark on a writing career NOW? Start an internet-based business? (Or whatever other phrase fits here for you). Are you crazy?

Now their voices have become even louder in your head.

You would so love to be one of the success stories. The one who finally made it but right now have lost all your mojo and nothing to show for your courageous decision.

Well – here is the good news: (more…)

Are You Going through a Major Life Transition?

Life changes can catch us by surprise.

Are you feeling a tad restless, frustrated, anxious or down and depressed?

It is quite likely that you are going through a life transition but perhaps haven’t recognized the fullness of it.

Like it or not, our lives is a series of change and transitions.

Recognising and understanding the nature of such transitions can help reduce some of the angst and resource us to adapt faster and take positive action as we step into the changed or new future.

Here are some signs that you may be going through a major life transition:

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